Why Are So Many Superheroes Orphans?

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Spiderman, Batman (and Robin), Superman, Ironman, etc. Why are so many superheroes orphans? It’s more than just an odd coincidence. Comic book writers know basic human nature. They know that, when channeled correctly, trauma and pain can be used for good. Unless someone is cut deeply, it’s challenging to have the empathy and understanding needed to truly help and reach out to others. Unless someone has lost everything, they have no idea how to reach others who have.

In our area of Mexico, broken tile mosaics are very popular. You start out with clean, bright, shiny, usually flawless tile. You then drop it, or in some fashion shatter the tile to break it into sharp, jagged, usable pieces. After the first breaking, you take a specialized type of pliers to crush off rough edges or create new edges, to shape it into the perfect piece to create the design. Without that shattering and crushing, the tile might be flawless, but it would be useless for its intended purpose. The artist creating the mosaic sees the bigger picture and breaks each piece to create a stunning masterpiece that brings joy and beauty into the world. Sometimes, we are that tile.

When my wife and I first got to Mexico, the children in the orphanage had seen a lot of people come through and had heard a lot of false promises. When they met us, in their eyes, we were just another couple that was going to abandon them. The first few weeks they tested us, and we had a hard time connecting with our limited experience and horrible Spanish. One night, while talking with some of the teen boys, it came up that my mother had died when I was fairly young and my wife came from her own challenging upbringing. The moment they heard about our histories, I could see something change in their expressions that said: “Oh, they get it.” Suddenly, although our Spanish still sucked, and we still had a LOT to learn, a door was opened between us, and we had a connection. Without the pain we had gone through, that door would not have opened. Without our histories, I doubt we would be in orphan care today.

We interview a lot of people who feel called to orphan care and want to join our team, and we ask all the standard questions. The one question where I carefully watch their response is “tell me about your childhood.” If they get nervous, they move to the top of the list. Over the years, we’ve found that our BEST staff are the ones with the worst childhood. I don’t wish pain on anyone, but I know God can use it. Abandonment, child of divorce, alcoholic parents, time in foster care, should never have to happen. But man, it can create people of depth and understanding. They “get” the pain our children have gone through. They understand the healing that needs to take place, and how to guide our children through it. The Master has used their broken edges to shape them in such a way that He can use them for a masterpiece.

We had one long-term volunteer come in that seemed perfect, on paper. He was raised in a great family, very polite, came from a very active church, impressive education, etc. It quickly became apparent that he was a disaster in orphan care. He didn’t do anything wrong exactly; he just couldn’t connect with the kids. He didn’t get it; there was no empathy in him. He even had a hard time connecting with the other team members on a deeper level. It just didn’t work. In talking to him even, he used the term “charmed life” when referring to his history. Ideal family, small-town upbringing, popular in school, etc. He had never really suffered anything. He went home to the US after a few months and he’s doing fine, I’m sure he’ll have a good life, but his lack of suffering hindered his ability to minister to those in need. He had never been broken.

If you’ve gone through loss, abandonment, the death of loved ones, etc., take joy in knowing that we have a loving Father, a master artist, who can take our broken, rough edges and shape them into a masterpiece. If we’ve turned the pain over to God, and allowed Him to move us through healing, we can now be the tools He will use to change lives. There is nothing that has happened to us that God can not use if we allow Him.

If you’re in orphan care, the healing process is long, complicated, and can sometimes be an agonizing experience as we lead children through the pain. But it can work. God can bring children through horrific experiences and bring them to a healthy place. The sad truth is, not every child heals emotionally. Some will make poor life decisions and never reach that place where they have moved on from what’s been done to them. Our job as caregivers is to guide our children to healing, to show them that what’s been done to them is not who they are. We always need to remember that God is the master, the artist, who will shape the broken parts into His perfect masterpiece. We just carry the broken tile to the Artist.

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8 thoughts on “Why Are So Many Superheroes Orphans?

  1. Kathy Y October 23, 2017 / 6:18 am

    This is beautiful! An excellent illustration of something I have seen in my own life. God redeems the most painful, broken times in our lives by using us to encourage others. He brings healing through our wounds.

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    • djschuetze October 23, 2017 / 6:36 am

      Thank you for the comment, may God continue to use everything you’ve experienced.

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  2. Guy Drummond October 23, 2017 / 8:13 am

    Stunning article!! A must read. 2 Cor. 1:4 “ so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves received from Christ!” I loved the example of “broken tile mosaics”. God takes our brokenness and makes beauty!! God wastes nothing to conform us into his image! Thank you DJ..

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    • djschuetze October 23, 2017 / 9:03 am

      Thank you Guy, and thank you so much for your example of service to the broken.

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  3. Stephen October 23, 2017 / 8:24 am

    Great example. I remember you and Lynette letting the children take out their frustrations on tile and then making the planter with the two big palm trees in it.

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    • djschuetze October 23, 2017 / 9:01 am

      You guys have seen a lot – thank you for your faithfulness over the years.

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  4. Cami October 23, 2017 / 9:38 am

    Maybe this is somewhat off the topic, but I would add that it is also uncanny how God can use a child’s brokenness to push buttons in areas he wants to work on in us (parents, caregivers, etc.); even areas we thought were under control and “fine.” Just speaking from some painful experience here…

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  5. Michelle October 24, 2017 / 8:41 am

    Awesome analogy! Before I became a Christian, I was always looking for the recipe for a perfect life. In Christ, I have found that perfection is only attained in One Person, and He loves me just the way I am, broken bits and all.

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